Putting together your wedding invitations is hard enough anyway, but it can be even trickier if you are planning to have an “adults only” wedding reception. It is important to let people know that there are no children allowed at your reception, but at the same time you want to word it correctly so that you don’t offend anyone. If you are too vague some people won’t get the point, but if you are too direct it can sound harsh or unfriendly. Here are some ideas on how to make it clear to your guests that your wedding reception is only for adults without coming right out and saying “no children allowed!”.
The first option for telling your guests not to bring their children to your reception is to include it on the RSVP card. There are a couple of different ways that you can do this.
If you want to be subtle about it you can include a phrase like “two seats reserved for” above the name line on the reception RSVP card. This gets the point across in a very subtle way without coming right out and saying “don’t bring your kids to our reception”. You can also get the RSVP cards printed with a blank for the number instead of a “two” and fill it in yourself before you send out the invitations.
For a more direct approach you can print a phrase on either the RSVP cards or your invitations indicating that it is an adults only reception. Something like “Adult cocktail party to follow” is a nice way to phrase it and most people will pick up on the word “adult” and leave the kids at home.
If you have a lot of out of town guests with children attending your wedding you may want to consider hiring a babysitter to help watch them during your reception. The sitter won’t cost you a lot of money and it is a nice way to help keep your out of town guests from stressing over what to do with their kids. Include a short note with their invitation explaining that a sitter will be available and asking if they plan to use the service.